March 12th, 2013
On My Mind

“The happy fashion designer Isabel Marant”

The Gentlewomanone of my favorite magazines, profiled Isabel Marant, one of my favorite designers. When the SS13 issue with Beyonce on the cover hit my mailbox, I was overjoyed. If you don’t know The Gentlewoman, it’s published in London and focuses on a wide range of women ‘of style and purpose’.

The current issue is particularly good. And the interview with Ms. Marant is really good. The best take-away for me was, when asked about the long-term future of her brand she responded “Everybody tells me, ‘Ach, you’ll never be able to stop!’ but I think I will. You correspond to a certain time, your time, and you must realize when it’s not your time”. This truly resonated with me.

For over 20 years I cast models for magazine editorials and fashion shows– I was passionate about my work. Then, one day, I didn’t want to do it anymore. My friend Helmut Lang, whose shows I cast, had retired, I was tired of celebs on covers, the endless travel and being away from my family was exhausting– I just knew I was done. Bottom line, it was no longer ‘my time’.

So, I took the models’ cards off my walls, called my agent, and walked away. Do I ever miss it? Nope. I miss my industry friends, but I don’t need to work in an office or on a show to see them.

Isabel is right, life is too short to do something that no longer makes you happy or keeps you relevant, and I am very fortunate to have found a new passion that I cannot wait to work on each day.

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  • I understand completely how you felt. I’ve done this in my life twice, when the passion was gone, and knew I had to move on. Re-invention of ourselves is not always easy, but worth it if we go deep enough to listen to that still, small voice inside. The louder the voice gets, the more obvious it becomes. Good for you. And thanks for this post.

    JayMarch 12th, 2013  10:28 AM

     
  • Totally agree. One’s life is a happy process of evolution. You don’t like it, don’t do it..even if the world thinks differently.

    AmelMarch 12th, 2013  10:30 AM

     
  • And now all those Helmut Lang girls are big again (Yesssss!!!!). PS: love The Gentlewoman

    DisneyrollergirlMarch 12th, 2013  10:31 AM

     
  • Probably my favorite post to date!!! Perhaps because we share this idea of stopping when the passion stops…..or maybe better said, that we go where our passion goes. I am grateful for your daily blog, Preston!!

    SheriMarch 12th, 2013  10:45 AM

     
  • I love Marant’s wisdom about recognizing when “its not your time anymore”. How hard it is for some people to see this and realize its really a law of nature, not a disparagement of them or what they have done. Moving on keeps people relevant, and that to me is the true fountain of youth.

    AprilMarch 12th, 2013  11:00 AM

     
  • I love this post; and I love the follow ups. I understand how unfathomable it is to those in the midst of it all that the siren song of work can cease, but when it does work seems so hollow. So, I too walked away. And now that my daughter is older I have returned in a similar but different form, not out of need but out of hunger to create and be immersed. And the form is different because I too am different and I can best speak to the things close to my experience.

    allisonMarch 12th, 2013  11:06 AM

     
  • This resonates with me a lot,as` i am at a point in my life where i have to make a decision soon.
    I feel my time has come to move on.

    inaMarch 12th, 2013  1:21 PM

     
  • Thank you for sharing this article with us. I love your blog and follow it regularly…this one one of my favorite posts. Walking away is so difficult, yet so liberating, smart and brave. I was at a crossroads, and one day when I was sitting with colleagues around a table, listening to them talk passionately about their assignments while I felt numb, I knew it was time to leave. Now I’m doing something I love and feel ever more confident and happy. For me, the process of change was the most challenging thing I’ve ever experienced, but today, I feel like I can do anything and fear is something that can be easily overcome.

    NedaMarch 12th, 2013  2:00 PM

     
  • Wonderful! Such a beautiful, “life-poetic post”. ( my phrase!)
    As others have said, we all have a time, the sun shines on our activities and we feel energised.
    I know for myself, my time is arriving to change- I feel blessed to be able to recognise it.
    I enjoy this type of post, I like to think of it as ” fashionable thinking” !

    RuthMarch 12th, 2013  2:35 PM

     
  • I like Gentlewoman and Isabel Marant – read another great interview with her at the weekend & have a quote lined up for my blog. Coming soon!

    That's Not My AgeMarch 12th, 2013  2:42 PM

     
  • Just what I needed to read today, to reaffirm a decision I’m in the process of reaching. Great post.

    KathyMarch 12th, 2013  5:14 PM

     
  • Great advice from both Isabel and you, Preston! What a wonderful and heartfelt post. Thank you for sharing it with us.

    JillMarch 12th, 2013  10:06 PM

     
  • And lucky for us you found this new passion. Great post as always.

    DianneMarch 12th, 2013  10:57 PM

     
  • Thank you for sharing this. The key here is passion. Without that love & passion, so wise a woman to move on. I could be there any minute.

    nikiMarch 13th, 2013  1:04 AM

     
  • Great and poignant piece about the inexplicable reality of work – you clearly made the right choice – your blog is a refreshing representation of style for the modern woman. Bravo!

    BitaMarch 13th, 2013  3:42 AM

     
  • Well said, and good for you!

    ShahareetMarch 13th, 2013  8:51 AM

     
  • Great Post!

    TanishaMarch 13th, 2013  8:15 PM

     
  • I could not agree with you more…thank you for confirming how I have been feeling. I am counting months to taking early retirement, leaving the corporate world behind, to pursue what I love! Am looking forward to it!

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  • Great post ! I can totally relate to this …. thanks for sharing

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