June 23rd, 2013

Housekeeping

You may have noticed that your comments no longer get launched immediately, they are held for approval. This is a common practice on blogs. Please know that I don’t only publish the comments that agree with me; I love when you have differing and dissenting opinions and often go back and recant my stance. The moto jacket is a good example. It went on my ‘no-no’ list, but after I got a lot of great arguments in its favor, I changed my position.

But comments that insult me (or other commenters) will no longer be shared. Recently, I was offended by a reader’s cruel personal remarks and I came out swinging. The back and forth was not a chic dialogue, and although another reader weighed in that I should publish all comments, even the ones that “ouch”, I disagree. I refuse to promote unkindness.

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  • good for you. Blogging is sharing ideas. We love what you post. But no one needs to put more bad out there. Keep sharing. In the wise words of my 4 year old “sharing is caring”

    ChristineJune 23rd, 2013  8:31 AM

     
  • I have to agree with your decision. Fortunately I don’t see it often but it always surprises me when readers feel they have the right to be unkind or downright cruel when expressing their opinions. There’s never any need to be rude and often as the saying goes, it’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it. One can always express a different opinion without causing offence or if it’s really not possible then best not to say anything at all surely?
    All the very best wishes!
    SPD
    www.silkpathdiary.com

    silkpathdiaryJune 23rd, 2013  8:44 AM

     
  • I hope it wasn’t me…

    AnitaJune 23rd, 2013  9:33 AM

     
  • I agree with you, there are an awful lot of twisted folk out there, I find it quite wearing reading their vitriol.

    Bourbon&PearlsJune 23rd, 2013  9:47 AM

     
  • Good for you! I can’t imagine why you have to deal with disrespect when you are sharing beauty with all of us. I’m only grateful to you. E.

    Ellen TurnbullJune 23rd, 2013  9:48 AM

     
  • Good for you! I love that you take a stand for what you believe , by doing so you subtley demand that everyone “straighten up and fly right”.

    Love your blog, you keep keep me on trend, sometimes things that I am thinking about- you will have a post about . Things I’ve never heard about, you open my mind too!!

    Thank you for keeping it chic inside and out!!!

    TheresaJune 23rd, 2013  9:55 AM

     
  • Well said, Preston!

    I view this blog (and all blogs) akin to being a guest in someone’s home. As the host, you choose to share your views and invite us (your readers) to discuss and linger. Thoughts should be shared with mindfulness and with kindness. Otherwise- there’s the door! In a polite manner of course! 🙂

    Enjoy this glorious Sunday!

    Mme DirectriceJune 23rd, 2013  10:21 AM

     
  • i totally agree- let’s celebrate beautiful things and ideas! there is so much negativity and sadness in the world- keep it kind! p- love your blog and your support! xo

    mark d sikesJune 23rd, 2013  10:27 AM

     
  • I completely agree with you!! Why would you ever want to encourage people with bad attitudes??!! I love hearing different opinions even strong ones but only if they are delivered in a classy and respectful way.
    On another note, I adore your blog and love your taste. I would love to see more pictures of your own personal outfits on a day to day basis!
    Take care and keep it chic!
    L

    LJune 23rd, 2013  10:50 AM

     
  • I can’t imagine what anyone could be cruel about. I can’t afford any of these clothes retail besides JCrew. I have bought consignment and Sometimes I “find” high end items for a few dollars like a beautiful Miu Miu bag.. But maybe not quite my style. What you have taught me to do is to think about what I have, to edit more carefully, to wear my lovely items and not just keep them for eternity and to have a more modern clothing sensibility. So thanks Preston for leading the way!

    LindyJune 23rd, 2013  12:13 PM

     
  • I think that’s perfectly fair. I really enjoy your blog and I want you to continue enjoying it as well.

    LilahJune 23rd, 2013  12:57 PM

     
  • Preston,
    Your blog. Your rules. You have a certain level of sophistication and elegance and I can see why you would want your blog to reflect this. So, we should all keep it chic and be kind!, agreed

    PaulaJune 23rd, 2013  1:33 PM

     
  • I agree with you, Preston. If people have differing views, they don’t have to present their ideas in the form of a personal attack. I am glad you are not going to publish cruel or demeaning comments. I don’t understand why certain people who would never say mean things in person feel the need to be horrible to others online. I guess they are just cowards or don’t know how to disagree in a respectful manner.

    LindaJune 23rd, 2013  2:03 PM

     
  • Eek. So sorry to hear that people take the time to write angrily in the comments section of your stylish and fun site. There are a bazillion blogs and style driven sites, but Keep It Chic is one of the very few I still follow regularly. I’m baffled why anyone would go online looking for a fight–especially here. I follow my favorites for some lightness and pretty eye candy to go about my busy day. Can’t imagine why anyone would take the time to see anything else. Thanks for editing out the ugliness. Kindness is always chic.

    jenniferJune 23rd, 2013  2:10 PM

     
  • 100% agreed. keep it positive people! 🙂

    corrinaJune 23rd, 2013  3:12 PM

     
  • The world we live in is full of hurt, dispair and sadness. Please don’t use this blog as a forum for further hurt.Freedom of expression through fashion and what we choose to wear is so personal, life would be very boring if we all dressed the same!! Love your blog and enjoy reading people’s different views but not personal attacks.
    Hannah mai

    Hannah maiJune 23rd, 2013  3:36 PM

     
  • Well done. I hope this becomes a trend.

    EleanorJune 23rd, 2013  4:39 PM

     
  • I agree with you. When you put your viewpoints in a blog, you do make yourself vulnerable to some negative comments, but it’s not an invitation to abuse. I think you tolerate dissent well, but have every right to limit what you subject yourself and others to. I can’t believe the degree of hostility shown by some over something as benign as clogs! Good grief. Even though we don’t know each other and will never meet, is that a reason to show such disdain to others comments or Preston’s generosity and good will in posting a picture? Diplomacy is always chic, and should be required in order to participate.

    AprilJune 23rd, 2013  8:01 PM

     
  • What I find so cowardly about rude comments, is that those people would never have the courage to say rude things directly to your face. They get to hide behind their computer.

    DianneJune 23rd, 2013  9:46 PM

     
  • Well stated. If someone doesn’t agree with content, the options are to disagree respectfully or disengage. Period.

    Geri TrueJune 23rd, 2013  11:05 PM

     
  • I agree completely. I am struck by how people find it so easy to be rude online whereas many of them would never be as impolite in person. In my opinion, good manners are never out of style.

    AmmuJune 24th, 2013  5:00 AM

     
  • I agree. Intentionally mean comments should be removed. I think of blogs as people’s homes. As a reader, I am a guest. As a guest, I am obligated to be curteous. Simply put: If you don’t have anything nice to say. Then don’t say anything at all.

    michelle OJune 24th, 2013  5:55 AM

     
  • Your blog is one of the best that I found time ago when I was browsing around. Your comments, picks, advise about books, even your confidences about your family are very nice.
    You do this with class, worldwide knowing and respect! In Spain, we have a sentence that reflects perfectly the ugly issue: ” the envy has a lot of faces”. Good luck and thanks for Being there teaching us a lot of things

    FlorJune 24th, 2013  6:40 AM

     
  • This is Keep it Chic Blog and that means verbal and otherwise. Rude behaviour and unkindness is never Chic. Good for you and thanks for keeping the airwaves clean:)

    brenda murphyJune 24th, 2013  9:36 AM

     
  • To sum it up- you go girl!!! ( sorry…not very chic!!!).

    SheriJune 24th, 2013  10:19 AM

     
  • Well said…there is a difference between an intelligent exchange of ideas and plain negativity. Your blog is fab! Never let anyone dull your sparkle…

    VirginiaJune 24th, 2013  10:41 AM

     
  • Thanks to you for making those who are inspired to comment feel safe from bullying. The comments above show so much class and respect. That is super chic to me.

    LynetteJune 24th, 2013  12:58 PM

     
  • Good for you! It’s your blog and you do not have to put up with crap from others. There is truly enough negativity in this world. Be kind!

    Oh, on a side note…I am a vegan and wonder if you might be able to occasionally blog about cruelty-free shoes? It’s hard to find lovely chic vegan clothing and shoes.
    Many thanks from the west coast of Canada!

    SharmanJune 24th, 2013  2:06 PM

     
  • Wow, how disturbing that some people feel the need to attack you or your post. In a world with so many problems to address it actually seems pretty ridiculous that anyone should use their energies to attack ideas about fashion. How about starvation, human trafficking, war. As my mother used to say, “Consider the source.”

    CandaceJune 24th, 2013  2:37 PM

     
  • i totally agree with you preston. you have such a good heartedness to you and just good sensibility. love seeing your blog everyday. such great and thoughtful content. xo cindy

    cindy wolfJune 24th, 2013  2:51 PM

     
  • Well Done Preston! There is enough meanness in the world – being hurtful is not all. PS love this blog – I look forward to it each day. xx

    AmandaJune 24th, 2013  7:54 PM

     
  • Great decision, Preston!
    There is no need for people to be so mean spirited.
    There is enough of that out there today.
    Keep up the great work-I love what you do!

    RandeJune 24th, 2013  10:40 PM

     
  • You go girl!! Words can hurt, and there is no need to be so volatile and negative. Life can be challenging enough. We are all part of ONE.
    Besides, it is not stylish to be cruel and mean. Kristin
    www.curatorsofstyle.com

    kristin BungartJune 25th, 2013  3:27 PM

     
  • Thank you, Preston, for sharing your well-edited world with us. I appreciate your “eye” and the things you choose to post. Your KIC Community stands with you on kindness.

    RobbiJune 25th, 2013  10:59 PM

     
  • You don’t have to print this, but FYI:

    it’s=it is

    its= possessive, belonging to it

    thank you

    Deranged English Teacher :)July 5th, 2013  12:20 AM

     
  • Thank you for the correction, cannot believe I missed it!

    PrestonJuly 5th, 2013  5:27 AM

     
  • How incredibly gracious of you. Not only is your blog chic–but you are, too! Will continue to enjoy your blog for its creativity and savvy.

    Deranged English Teacher :)July 5th, 2013  9:53 AM

     

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