July 17th, 2018
On My Mind

Dorm Room Decorating Denial

Last September, while we were deep in the college process, my friend Amy Astley posted this picture of her daughter in her freshman dorm room. I put it on my inspiration board for later. Well, later is now and I’m in complete denial that my younger daughter is leaving for college in less than two months.

I always wanted to be a mother and tweaked my career to spend more time with my girls—this turned out to be a blessing as I watch magazines dwindle and fold. My older one went to boarding school; going to college seemed like an extension of her already being away. The younger one stayed home for high school and we are very close. So, when she asked if we could start thinking about dorm decor I pulled up this image and my heart broke. Thankfully she will be in the U.S. and within driving distance, but still, I didn’t expect this day to be here so soon.

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  • Did your friends daughter go to Smith? Looks a lot like my old dorm!

    MaryJuly 17th, 2018  11:54 PM

     
  • I admire you for putting your time with your daughters first. Leaving any job which is gratifying and exciting takes courage and self- sacrifice. I can’t think of any woman who, on her death bed, thinks to herself, “I wish I hadn’t spent all that time with my children.” Jobs come and go – we get just the one go-around with raising children. Enjoy this exciting new adventure with your daughter!

    PaulaJuly 18th, 2018  12:56 AM

     
  • big kiss lovely, I can’t imagine my little one is only 5 xx

    kristin rawonJuly 18th, 2018  5:22 AM

     
  • Vassar, I went to Smith…

    PrestonJuly 18th, 2018  5:39 AM

     
  • I am going through the same thing with daughter #2 leaving for her freshman year in a few weeks! At least dorm decor has come a long way since I went!!! Urban Outfitters and PB Teen are lifesavers.

    BetsyJuly 18th, 2018  6:32 AM

     
  • My daughter, my last, is also going off to college. While I have enjoyed dorm Pinterest and planning with her, it still hasn’t been enough of a distraction to stop the big bubble of sadness that this time with her, under my roof, as a parent, is ending. Best to you both through the bittersweet transition!

    karenJuly 18th, 2018  6:38 AM

     
  • Hi Preston, my daughter is going to a summer program at Cambridge this year. Any input on why your daughter did not chose to go abroad for college?

    KimJuly 18th, 2018  7:20 AM

     
  • Hi Kim, Georgina wanted the PPE program at Oxford and we were told that very few non Brits are accepted into it. We were advised to apply for classics since she studied both Latin and Ancient Greek, but we felt that that would be too narrow a focus for three years of college.

    PrestonJuly 18th, 2018  8:51 AM

     
  • This is the ultimate dorm room. http://nymag.com/homedesign/spring2009/56426/

    MaryJuly 18th, 2018  9:07 AM

     
  • I feel ya!

    MathildeJuly 18th, 2018  9:27 AM

     
  • Read your post today and all I can say is “gas up the car!” since Georgina is within driving distance. She’s a dear and it is going to stink big time when she heads off. I wanted to put a headlight with a camera on my kids. But it’ll be okay. You’ll settle into the new normal. It gets a little tough because our jobs can chain us to our proverbial desk but it somehow sorts itself out and of course you know from Annie that watching them thrive, even at a distance, is the prize.

    Jennifer Ash RudickJuly 18th, 2018  11:44 AM

     
  • I dropped my daughter at college 17 years ago and remember the feeling like it was yesterday. She’s married with two kids of her own, but I still haven’t totally adjusted to the idea that she doesn’t live at home with me anymore….but as Jennifer said, seeing them thrive is the prize.

    KathyJuly 18th, 2018  8:26 PM

     
  • That is bittersweet your daughter is leaving. My youngest still has a year and I am not looking forward to it for me, but I am for her. Funny- my older daughter went to Vassar and had the exact same room plus it looks like my freshman year room at William Smith. B

    Elizabeth AmesJuly 23rd, 2018  11:01 AM

     
  • I checked out the NY magazine article referenced above ~ what’s with the fully stocked bar cart, not to mention the expensive brands?! And how about those cheerful, nicely folded socks and undies in the dresser? Q: Who’s kid lives like this? And more importantly, what parent wants their kid to live like this??

    PaulaJuly 26th, 2018  10:34 PM

     

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