Modern Etiquette

My Smythson stationery

My dear friend hosted a birthday lunch for me yesterday. The food was yummy, the weather divine and the group gathered was terrific. I love when it is a collection of people I know well with new interesting future friends mixed in.

The hostess who is an eco warrior invited us by email. She used a company called Paperless Post and created beautiful virtual invitations. I read a piece in T Magazine on the “correctness” of this practice recently and have been wondering whether it’s chic. I think it is not only chic, but conscientious as well. Granted, I love the presentation of an engraved invitation on heavy card stock, but I am equally saddened when it is tossed out destined for a landfill. That is definitely not chic!

Considering that I am an editor for an online entity, I found the evite to be thoughtful. But what about the thank you note? This time I will write them on my stationery and mail them the old fashioned way. But I hope that in the near future it will be as acceptable to create them virtually. An email is just not the same thing. However, I do like the immediacy of thanking by email. I will investigate if I can simulate my personalized stationery online and will let you know.

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J. CREW

Demi-fine 14K gold-plated hoop

CHLOÉ

Oversized-lapel double-breasted wool-blend coat

CHLOÉ

Quincy shiny ballerina loafer mule

BURBERRY

Pleated checked wool midi skirt

CALVIN KLEIN 205W39NYC

Checked wool blazer

CALVIN KLEIN 205W39NYC

High-rise straight-leg jeans

MONCLER

Blanche leather ankle boots

SAINT LAURENT

Bellechasse medium leather-trimmed canvas bag

PRADA

Double breasted coat

PRADA

Flared corduroy trousers

SAINT LAURENT

Square belt bag

PRADA

Flared corduroy trousers

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Cire Trudon

At Privet House in Greenwich I discovered Cire Trudon candles- the most sublime candles ever! I bought one in the scent ABD EL KADER which is exotic yet fresh. The presentation and packaging is extraordinary so I picked it up to be a hostess gift for a spring luncheon this week. However, my friend moved the lunch date. The candle has been sitting on my desk smelling heavenly even in the box so I have claimed it and lit it. The hostess will hopefully be happy with the little something I picked up for her at Hermes in Greenwich as well…

Cire Trudon candles at Privet House Greenwich, Connecticut

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Happiness

Courtesy of Vogue Magazine

Happiness is in the air and the bookstores. The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin is on everyone’s bedside table and on my Kindle. Continue…

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Pippa Lee

Director Rebecca Miller and cast of The Private Lives of Pippa Lee

I love the four women who made this incredible film! I missed it in the theater so I just watched it at home-  brilliant and thought provoking. What will I do when no one needs me to care for them? Liberating to contemplate. Rent this!

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Multiples

Do I really need three?

Recently I wrote a post on lending and I realized that one of the reasons I am willing to lend or give away my clothes and accessories is that I frequently buy more than one of something. Continue…

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Would you lend this bag?

A few weeks ago in a post on copying I mentioned that I lent a Chloe dress to a fellow magazine editor for a three week trip to the European collections before I had worn it. Recently, a friend was thinking about a Louis Vuitton Speedy bag and wondering if she would carry one so I brought her mine to test drive.  I have always been a lender.

In boarding school my closet was fair game and when I was at Vogue I would often lend clothes (or more often than not, give clothes) to my assistants.  Let’s face it, clothing and accessories can be expensive. I believe the true value of something is how often it is worn, and not just by me. I hate it when I find a great piece tucked away in my closet forgotten and unworn. As in an earlier post on cleaning out closets, I need to see what I have or I would end up wearing the same outfit daily forgetting that I have some really great things.

The good news is that I tend to buy only classics that go the distance. These are evergreen pieces because they are timeless. So even if many of my Hermes and Chanel bags are ancient, they are still current. If something really sits there for a few years and I don’t ever put it on, I send it to my mother. She too is a lender which is convenient. A few years ago I gave her a saddle colored  Chanel bag and when I saw her wearing it recently I asked if I could borrow it back. She was more than happy to hand it back to me, especially when I sent her the same bag in chocolate as a thank you. And the lending goes on.

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Color challenge(d)

My Neutral Overload

When I look at my wardrobe I realize that I am color challenged. Continue…

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Perfect vacation

Photo courtesy of Cookie magazine

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Borrowing from the (little) girls

Ralph Lauren girl’s sweater

I recently had lunch with the Kristinas (yep, two women, same name) at my club in the city. Conservative dress code is expected. If you know me, you know that I do not like to buy lots of clothes for different occasions. So my biggest fashion challenge was finding pieces that could go from my fashion magazine job to an Upper East Side club event. This was not always an easy feat and I feel like I was always switching shoes in a ladies room.  But I digress.

At lunch last week it came up that my tiny, perfectly fitted sweater belonged to my daughter, my 10-year-old daughter, not my teen. It is true, after years of searching for the perfect length sweater, I often buy them from the children’s department. The fit is also snug enough to wear under a jacket, making it a great transitional/layering piece. The price is better too! Ralph Lauren and J. Crew make children’s cashmere sweaters in every color imaginable.  I recommend that you shop the boys department as well, their sweaters are not as fitted and longer.

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Secret Address: Table d’Hote

Ok I admit it, I am a lady who lunches – often. Continue…

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