April’s comment on the previous post reminded me of this post from April 2017.
Many of us have experienced buyer’s remorse — the sting felt after making a regrettable purchase. I try very hard to never feel that sting and sometimes deliberate on an item for so long that it sells out before I commit. But, what about the reverse? I’ll coin it buyer’s relief—the feeling I get when I’ve had my heart set on an expensive item that, in the end, doesn’t suit me. The relief is the $$$$ ‘saved’, $$$$ that could now be put toward something else.
This happened recently with the above Miu Miu coat. I was smitten the second it hit the runway last fall and immediately put it on my spring wish-list. As I added other items to said list, I was mindful that I already had the pricey coat on there. When I got the call that it was in, I raced over to Bergdorf Goodman to try it on. As the SA pulled it out my heart sank because, as gorgeous as it was, I knew the color would not be good on me. Disappointed? Yes. Relieved? Yes, also.
I can totally relate to this situation. I have often lusted after a particular item, only to be disappointed when I have seen and examined it in person. Fit, fabric, color, construction- all can be an issue. Sometimes serendipitous clothing finds end up being my favorites as well as a “basic”. But what happens when the perfect item is not and the gap in one’s wardrobe still exits? I have the most frustrating time shopping when I have envisioned the perfect item and cannot find it.
Coincidentally, I had the exact thing happen just this week. A fur jacket which I had been admiring all winter was just reduced, but still a very significant purchase. I knew the second I opened the box the color was not right and not going to be good on me. I felt relieved not to have to think about it any more and had it back to FedEx within the hour! Whatever the wardrobe void, if it’s significant, it’s worth waiting for.
This is why I always tell people who are truly lusting after something they think is perfect and agonizing over it to just go try it on! Most of the time it’s not what they think it is and they can let go. If it is, it’s probably worth the splurge 😉
Lovely coat 🙂
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I love buyer’s relief. I feel like I earned money! It’s a beautiful coat, but I think a tough color to wear.
Finding out that something seriously contemplated isn’t right for you is just as rewarding to me as an item on sale: it’s shopping math. Or as Kathy said “earned” money.
Buyer’s Relief is a beautiful thing!
I felt this way when I finally was able to get a pair of the Hermes clogs. Gorgeous but I could not walk in them!
Yes, it is a “cost savings” when things don’t work out. I also try to avoid final sale when buying online.
I agree and I love the term. I tried on the Stella McCartney Elyse platform after months of pining for them. I was so thrilled to be clear about how wrong they were for me.
Years ago, I had a sales associate that I worked with who was always very honest with me. She knew my coloring, my build and what I really liked/disliked. Sometimes when I would call her, excited about a new item that I had seen, she’d say, “This isn’t for you.” On the other hand, she was very good at steering me to things that I might have overlooked. As a blonde myself, I know that beige/tan can be a tricky thing to wear.
Clogs were something for my “imaginary life”. When I finally scored a pair of the Khaite’s, as lovely as they were, they went right back.
Lately I seem to be living in my “imaginary life”. Sometimes it is more fun there!! Summertime love,
Pamela, I’ll come join you 🙂
Count me in! 🙂